The Dark Side Has Cookies.....

[mickeytoo]

On a silly side note...
I do get called all those gooey names by female Guests all the time at TDS...but not in a demeaning manner...at least as far as I can tell, anyway...!

[Keasmom]

On a silly side note...
I do get called all those gooey names by female Guests all the time at TDS...but not in a demeaning manner...at least as far as I can tell, anyway...!

See, in a retail or restaurant setting, I can somewhat see that. Locally there are some great waitresses that call everyone "hun", but it is not peer to peer.


I ceased being angry about it but every once in a while a man on a phone in a warehouse that knows far less, dares to try to double check me, then calls me a term-OY does that make me feel devalued. The rant was caused by ONE man in one warehouse in Atlanta.

I normally do not speak to him, I aks for another salesman, but gave him a second try. If I am unsure of a fitment, I triple check before I call, since the warehouses are busy it is fast if I can say, "this is Chris from ________, do you have 22 inch, 338's, black, high offset, 6-135?"

He asked the truck year, he asked if I checked my pattern, he asked if I was sure on offset. I reminded him that I always triple check before I call, so as not to waste their time, or mine, he says, "ok, sweetie, just making sure-now you have a nice day sugar"


WTH!!!!! Since i have been in this so long, they all know me, I have met most of them, and industry wide, I am noted for being technically proficient-for a girl. I can own the company, I can be president, I can negotiate deals, make sales, shop for the 4 kinds of insurance we have to carry, and get reduced to bobble head with one comment.


Okay, let me go have a great day, darlins' cause once we add customers to the mix, I just get baffled. They ask for a MAN to speak with, a new supplier got turned down for my business yesterday because he came in asking to cspeak to the man in charge-HIS business was for the MAN nto the secretary. OY. Needless to say, DH heard that, looked at his products and dismissed him.

[mickeytoo]

See, in a retail or restaurant setting, I can somewhat see that. Locally there are some great waitresses that call everyone "hun", but it is not peer to peer.


I ceased being angry about it but every once in a while a man on a phone in a warehouse that knows far less, dares to try to double check me, then calls me a term-OY does that make me feel devalued. The rant was caused by ONE man in one warehouse in Atlanta.

I normally do not speak to him, I aks for another salesman, but gave him a second try. If I am unsure of a fitment, I triple check before I call, since the warehouses are busy it is fast if I can say, "this is Chris from ________, do you have 22 inch, 338's, black, high offset, 6-135?"

He asked the truck year, he asked if I checked my pattern, he asked if I was sure on offset. I reminded him that I always triple check before I call, so as not to waste their time, or mine, he says, "ok, sweetie, just making sure-now you have a nice day sugar"


WTH!!!!! Since i have been in this so long, they all know me, I have met most of them, and industry wide, I am noted for being technically proficient-for a girl. I can own the company, I can be president, I can negotiate deals, make sales, shop for the 4 kinds of insurance we have to carry, and get reduced to bobble head with one comment.


Okay, let me go have a great day, darlins' cause once we add customers to the mix, I just get baffled. They ask for a MAN to speak with, a new supplier got turned down for my business yesterday because he came in asking to cspeak to the man in charge-HIS business was for the MAN nto the secretary. OY. Needless to say, DH heard that, looked at his products and dismissed him.

Yes, as I stated, very justifiable.

I have never been that way. Male or female, black or white, younger or older, etc., I will work with, respect and learn from anyone that knows their business. We are all human and have our faults about first impressions sometimes, but I was always taught, by my folks, to put all that aside and be completely open minded about such matters in life.

[disneymaniac87]

ASDKJLh.

I have been lied to so much the past few days I do not know what to do with myself. First Off, I dropped my phone screen. I have insurance. We pay $10 a month. You'd think the insurance would cover the stuff with a small fee. Well, For my phone.. it's $200. That's the PRICE of my phone. WHAT'S THE USE OF INSURANCE THEN. THERE IS NONE. I am paying the same stinkin' price that I paid for the phone. That's just ridiculous.

Second, My change oil light came on in my car. When I bought my car, I was told that I can call the morning of to make an appointment and they would come and pick my car up from work so I wouldn't have to sit and wait. WELL... I was lied to about that. I called this morning. The appointment person told me that You have to book a few days in advance to be able to have your car picked up. Well.. WHAT'S THE REASON FOR THE SERVICE THEN?! If I am calling because my change oil light is ON.. it means I need it done NOW... I can't drive my car for a few days when it's like that. I NEED IT FIXED ASAP! I have to work and can't take it when you have available appointments. You would think they'd make an exception when it's an emergency.. But nope.. so I have to go tonight at 6 to take my car and I have to wait for it. I have to stuff to do and really can't wait for it.

Also, This weekend.. went on a date. Like the guy... but can't date him. We're in different spots in our lives. I am 24.. I want to get married. He's 21... most definitely isn't ready for marriage. I don't date just to date. I don't know what to do. There are also some moral issues there as well. We don't have the same moral values. I can't date someone who doesn't have the same moral values as me.

[Keasmom]

ASDKJLh.

I have been lied to so much the past few days I do not know what to do with myself. First Off, I dropped my phone screen. I have insurance. We pay $10 a month. You'd think the insurance would cover the stuff with a small fee. Well, For my phone.. it's $200. That's the PRICE of my phone. WHAT'S THE USE OF INSURANCE THEN. THERE IS NONE. I am paying the same stinkin' price that I paid for the phone. That's just ridiculous.

[COLOR="rgb(139, 0, 0)"]That is really ridiculous. Our cell insurance sent a new phone for $40 when DH dropped his in the toilet-while reaching for a mirror trying to fly off the wall. Call and get a supervisor if you can OR go to the local phone store. [/COLOR]

Second, My change oil light came on in my car. When I bought my car, I was told that I can call the morning of to make an appointment and they would come and pick my car up from work so I wouldn't have to sit and wait. WELL... I was lied to about that. I called this morning. The appointment person told me that You have to book a few days in advance to be able to have your car picked up. Well.. WHAT'S THE REASON FOR THE SERVICE THEN?! If I am calling because my change oil light is ON.. it means I need it done NOW... I can't drive my car for a few days when it's like that. I NEED IT FIXED ASAP! I have to work and can't take it when you have available appointments. You would think they'd make an exception when it's an emergency.. But nope.. so I have to go tonight at 6 to take my car and I have to wait for it. I have to stuff to do and really can't wait for it.

[COLOR="rgb(139, 0, 0)"]That is a dealership game. See if they offer a switch car, where you can drop yours off during business hours, and drive one of theirs until yours is done. Many here offer that, cause everyone works and very few folks can be without a car. Or see if they have a way for you to drop yours off and pick up a 24 our rental... BUT, locate your salesman when you go and chew him a blue one for lying. [/COLOR]

Also, This weekend.. went on a date. Like the guy... but can't date him. We're in different spots in our lives. I am 24.. I want to get married. He's 21... most definitely isn't ready for marriage. I don't date just to date. I don't know what to do. There are also some moral issues there as well. We don't have the same moral values. I can't date someone who doesn't have the same moral values as me.

Yes, unequally yoked means you two are pulling in different directions-with moral values that is nearly impossible to make work. Move on to the next candidate for the position.

[Keasmom]

An excellent rant, BTW. Very top notch. And concise.

[disneymaniac87]

Yes, unequally yoked means you two are pulling in different directions-with moral values that is nearly impossible to make work. Move on to the next candidate for the position.

Yeah, it's just hard for me to tell him that. I do like him.

[Keasmom]

Yeah, it's just hard for me to tell him that. I do like him.

Well, it is hurt now or hurt much more later.

[Keasmom]

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This wall is in a friend of ours house. It is SO super cool. high density epoxy, and a lot of pennies.

[BamaJenn]

Well, it is hurt now or hurt much more later.

Agreed!! Being lead on to think it's going well only to find out later that it never was, not even after the first date... that'd be bad.

[HauntedGabe]

Also, This weekend.. went on a date. Like the guy... but can't date him. We're in different spots in our lives. I am 24.. I want to get married. He's 21... most definitely isn't ready for marriage. I don't date just to date. I don't know what to do. There are also some moral issues there as well. We don't have the same moral values. I can't date someone who doesn't have the same moral values as me.

As a Mom of a 24 year old guy...and the home where all the guys and gals hang all summer, nothing spooks a guy more than to find out early on is the girl is husband hunting.

While the son has matured a lot between the 21 to 24 range, night and day, I can't say he is there, nor are most of the guys I that I trip across, so dating 3 years younger, safe bet they are not ready yet. Then again a good chunk of these young women are not either. I've yet to see them have life direction. Ya, they have jobs, great start. Yet every last one of them are still at home not ready to leave the nest and no time frame or goal to be independent. Not willing to make the sacrifices necessary to tone down the social life and the expenses that go with that for their independence. And if they are not independent from the nest I would not encourage him or them to take on a spouse. They are all still having the time of their life and so be it. I've seen their Facebooks and Twitters, they are all about having fun right now. None of it screams I am mature and ready for marriage. I'd rather they all get it out of their system now, wait a few more years, get their own life in order, move out on their own and then consider marriage.

[mickeytoo]

ASDKJLh.

I have been lied to so much the past few days I do not know what to do with myself. First Off, I dropped my phone screen. I have insurance. We pay $10 a month. You'd think the insurance would cover the stuff with a small fee. Well, For my phone.. it's $200. That's the PRICE of my phone. WHAT'S THE USE OF INSURANCE THEN. THERE IS NONE. I am paying the same stinkin' price that I paid for the phone. That's just ridiculous.

Second, My change oil light came on in my car. When I bought my car, I was told that I can call the morning of to make an appointment and they would come and pick my car up from work so I wouldn't have to sit and wait. WELL... I was lied to about that. I called this morning. The appointment person told me that You have to book a few days in advance to be able to have your car picked up. Well.. WHAT'S THE REASON FOR THE SERVICE THEN?! If I am calling because my change oil light is ON.. it means I need it done NOW... I can't drive my car for a few days when it's like that. I NEED IT FIXED ASAP! I have to work and can't take it when you have available appointments. You would think they'd make an exception when it's an emergency.. But nope.. so I have to go tonight at 6 to take my car and I have to wait for it. I have to stuff to do and really can't wait for it.

Also, This weekend.. went on a date. Like the guy... but can't date him. We're in different spots in our lives. I am 24.. I want to get married. He's 21... most definitely isn't ready for marriage. I don't date just to date. I don't know what to do. There are also some moral issues there as well. We don't have the same moral values. I can't date someone who doesn't have the same moral values as me.

We've got a place here in the mall were I work that I'm pretty sure fixes 'em for WAY less than that.
Do some research. That price is a ***** job.

If it's just a "change oil" light, it's just a light reminding you it's time for the manufacturers suggested time for and oil change. No big deal, just get to it as soon as you can.

Wait for it all Sarah...you'll be glad you did.

[disneymaniac87]

As a Mom of a 24 year old guy...and the home where all the guys and gals hang all summer, nothing spooks a guy more than to find out early on is the girl is husband hunting.

While the son has matured a lot between the 21 to 24 range, night and day, I can't say he is there, nor are most of the guys I that I trip across, so dating 3 years younger, safe bet they are not ready yet. Then again a good chunk of these young women are not either. I've yet to see them have life direction. Ya, they have jobs, great start. Yet every last one of them are still at home not ready to leave the nest and no time frame or goal to be independent. Not willing to make the sacrifices necessary to tone down the social life and the expenses that go with that for their independence. And if they are not independent from the nest I would not encourage him or them to take on a spouse. They are all still having the time of their life and so be it. I've seen their Facebooks and Twitters, they are all about having fun right now. None of it screams I am mature and ready for marriage. I'd rather they all get it out of their system now, wait a few more years, get their own life in order, move out on their own and then consider marriage.

I try not to husband hunt, but it is on my mind. I want to date someone who has the qualities that I'd like in my future husband.

My biggest concern with the guy isn't the age. I mean.. it is a factor.. but it isn't the end all. It's the morals. We just aren't on the same page morally. It makes a huge difference when it comes to certain parts of a relationship. It worries me.

[disneymaniac87]

We've got a place here in the mall were I work that I'm pretty sure fixes 'em for WAY less than that.
Do some research. That price is a ***** job.

If it's just a "change oil" light, it's just a light reminding you it's time for the manufacturers suggested time for and oil change. No big deal, just get to it as soon as you can.

Wait for it all Sarah...you'll be glad you did.

I'm getting the oil changed tonight. I just didn't want to sit and wait...

[Keasmom]

Okay, local news reports indicate a nearby state is passing a law to allow parents of public school kids, in schools that receive an "F" evaluation-CAN vote to turn it into a private charter school. BUT, public school administrators say this only hurts local schools. WELL< fellas, here is a thought-IMPROVE the schools-I know, radical right?? How about modeling failing public schools after the more successful public or private schools?

how about we take the novel approach of thinking outside the box, and using a better MODEL for the schools, demand parental involvement and responsibility and see, just SEE if that doesn't improve the public schools.

Think this one through, there, school admin people-if the same thing done repeatedly DOESN'T work, hey-TRY SOMETHING different.



Just a thought/rant. Cause I weary of the crying over failing schools/loss of students to private schools-how about a solution for a change.

i know there are many ideas on this subject, let's find something that works for the students, even if it is a radical change from the current models.