Moving 101....it's going to be stressful. There is no getting around it...but things will get better. I can understand your frustration of not being able to do all that needs to be done. Some how it WILL get done and with the exception of leaving a small child behind...it will all be fine. I've moved to Australia and twice to England. The most stressful move was from Maryland to NY City. Go figure. I've had to give up stashes of fabric and craft items to down-size. I'll admit that I've missed some things, but I have found that I'm able to build it back up in due time - all to my husband's dismay.
Hang in there. I'm sending good thoughts and lots of magic. (If the magic works, save some for me. I'll need it in June 2008.)